Manipulation Overpowering Your Life?
Introduction To manipulation
I (Sherri) began to put this together for many reasons not the least of which is God heard me. Being manipulated by those who are to be for me and not against me made my heart thirst, like parched land, to be released, set free, and be out from under the oppression. Manipulation is part of our fallen nature and when we live to please our flesh, manipulating and being manipulated do not appear abnormal. But if your heart is crying out to be set free from entrapments and oppression there is an answer.
Salvation does not stop evil from coming after you. True repentance and surrender to Christ is really a declaration of war. When someone has faith in the name Jesus Christ, Satan is like the religious of Jesus day, he is threatened. He begins his war of crippling you.
The definition of manipulate: influence or control shrewdly or deviously (memidex) and To control or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means, especially to one's own advantage (Merriam-Webster)
Manipulation is a tool introduced to man by Satan
In Genesis 3 we find the serpent using his craftiness towards Eve as a tool to manipulate her.
1 Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” 2 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, 3 but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’” 4 “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. 5 “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”
Here we find Satan manipulating Eve by his words. She allowed his words to influence her to question God which led to disobedience. By which Adam and Eve found themselves controlled by sin. Now all of mankind is under the same manipulation of Satan (Ephesians 2)
Children begin to manipulate at a young age. Their manipulation techniques are perfected by the example of those who have influence over them and control them. When children are manipulated by the use of anger this fosters fear, shame which fosters guilt, disappointment which fosters lies, and etc. Children live out what they know.
Manipulation of others has one goal self advantage
Manipulators have a goal to achieve when manipulating someone. They will continue until they achieve their goal. The bible shows us examples of manipulators. These examples should be applied to our life if and when this occurs to us.
- In the book of Esther we find Haman manipulating the king to kill all the Jews.
- In 1 Kings 21:8-16 - Jezebel manipulates the religious leaders and the people to kill the owner of a vineyard her husband wants.
- In Matthew 22:15,23,34 - The religious are looking to trap, question, and test Jesus. They want to influence the people against Him. They were afraid of Him because they feared the loss of their authority, power, position, and wealth.
- Satan is behind all manipulation and we find him at it again in Luke 4.
- Luke 4:3-4 - The devil tries to influence Jesus to choose Himself.
- Luke 4:5-8 - The devil tries to influence Jesus to gain the kingdoms of the world by way of Satan giving them to Him. He wanted Jesus to choose material wealth over God in order to control Him.
- Luke 4:9-12 - The devil tries to influence Jesus to use God's word for selfish gain.
If the devil believes he can manipulate the Son of God, Who is God in flesh, there is no doubt he can and does influence the world.
We are also tested to be manipulated to sin. Unlike Jesus, Who is sinless, we respond to manipulation through our emotions. When we are manipulated by others, there has to be recognition you are being manipulated and you are allowing it. Being manipulated says as much about you as the one doing the manipulating. It is the fear and pride of man that allows manipulation to work. Know Satan is the master manipulator and the father of all lies (John 8:44)
Can I Overcome Manipulation
To stop being manipulated by others it will take knowing the word of God, being able to see your character and the character of the other person. Praying for godly wisdom, knowledge, and discernment is a must.
Ephesians 4:14 (GW) Then we will no longer be little children, tossed and carried about by all kinds of teachings that change like the wind. We will no longer be influenced by people who use cunning and clever strategies to lead us astray.
1 Corinthians 13:11 (GW) When I was a child, I spoke like a child, thought like a child, and reasoned like a child. When I became an adult, I no longer used childish ways.
Those who are mature and are maturing in the Lord Jesus Christ will not be manipulated easily. They are solid in their faith, they see life choices through the eyes of God's word, and they control their emotions, actions, and words habitually. They use God's word to still their fears, their faith to believe what they read, and self-control to not move based on their feelings. Someone who is not grounded in faith in Jesus Christ will be someone who lives pleasing their flesh and they will be easily manipulated and not be aware most of the time.
Jesus is our example of how to stand firm against the ungodly influence of others. Jesus is our solid foundation that never changes. The biggest red flag for manipulation is it goes against God's word. Sounds like, I had no choice, they left me no choice, there was nothing else to do, etc. Jesus showed us to stand against manipulation requires knowing the word of God. However, the hardest manipulation to see is when it comes from those we least expect it or suspect it. There are those who use God and His word to manipulate, just like Satan did.
1 Samuel 17 - There are Goliaths in the life of every believer. The Goliaths use their perceived strength and weapons to cause fear in the hearts of the ones they want to control, oppress, and take captive.
This is the way of the world. God shows us in these scriptures it was a young teenage boy named David who brought Goliath down to his death with a rock and sling shot. The rock was flung by faith in God and the strength of the hand of the Almighty Lord God pulled the sling.
As a believer Jesus is our Rock, the Holy Spirit gives us courage and power. Prayer is our sling shot.
Luke 4:16-20 Then Jesus came to Nazareth, where he had been brought up. As usual he went into the synagogue on the day of rest—a holy day. He stood up to read the lesson. 17 The attendant gave him the book of the prophet Isaiah. He opened it and found the place where it read: 18 “The Spirit of the Lord is with me. He has anointed me to tell the Good News to the poor. He has sent me to announce forgiveness to the prisoners of sin and the restoring of sight to the blind, to forgive those who have been shattered by sin, 19 to announce the year of the Lord’s favor.” 20 Jesus closed the book, gave it back to the attendant, and sat down. Everyone in the synagogue watched him closely. 21 Then he said to them, “This passage came true today when you heard me read it.”
Jesus came from heaven to earth to release those held captive by Satan. To open the eyes of those who live in darkness blinded by the lies of Satan. Jesus offers forgiveness to the one who is held as a prisoner of sin. Jesus will forgive the one who sees their life is destroyed and broken into pieces by sin.
Jesus Christ offers true freedom
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